my PERSONAL STORY

I had never considered what I really wanted from my life; it just sort of happened. In work and my personal life opportunities arose, some of which I took and some I didn’t. None of it was focused on achieving any particular outcome. My view on life was that it was all pretty futile; what was it all about; what was the purpose? I often asked myself these questions, never really expecting to find the answer. I just kept going, one day at a time.

Bringing up children and working full time isn’t straightforward and having no real view about what I wanted to be and do, or what kind of parent I was choosing to be, made everything seem harder. When I found myself as a single mum juggling work, home, and children, I nearly buckled. I felt stressed all the time, found everyday activities harder than they should have been and didn’t find much joy in the things going on around me.

Even when I met the person who is now my husband and we moved to an amazing cottage in the countryside, I just couldn’t shake the sense of despair. I was depressed and miserable most of the time and couldn’t see any fun in much of what I did. Yes, I had a great job, leading complex change in large organisations and doing it very well. I lived in a beautiful country cottage with my family. What else could I possibly want?

My job was my purpose, gave me a sense of significance and was much of my focus. I’d leave early in the mornings, and get home late in the evenings, having travelled into London each day. Most of the time I was stressed and tired. Work dominated my thoughts pretty much 24/7.

Then, when one of my contracts came to an end, I didn’t move straight onto another one, like I would normally do. Initially this made things even worse. The one thing which made me feel good about myself had gone. What was left to feel positive about now?

Unsurprisingly, (although it was a surprise to me at the time), this was having a profound impact on those around me. My relationships with those most important to me were quite simply hanging on by a thread and getting increasingly challenging week by week. My children were mirroring my inner world and being at home made me more aware of their ups and downs. I was struggling to see how I could help.

Then I spotted something on LinkedIn. A colleague of mine had re-posted an advert for a free 45-minute coaching session. I jumped at the chance of finding a solution. What I didn’t realise at the time was that I was the problem, not them!

It was a horrifying realisation that my emotional state was having such a devastating impact on those I loved.

I became passionate about the prospect of real and positive change and signed up for courses which I knew would radically change my life, and the life of those around me.

I worked hard on changing me first, getting back to how I wanted to be as a women, partner, and mum. This automatically had a positive and significant impact on my family and I very quickly became passionate about the immense value of the solutions the training enabled me to discover. I had found my mission in life: to empower women to have dreams which become a reality and to live life to the full, being who they really wish to be; to feel joyful, fulfilled and in control of their own lives; to feel positive, confident, and full of self-worth.

Whilst there will always be new challenges, I now have the resilience, as well as the know-how to face anything life throws my way. As a life change specialist, I feel incredibly privileged to be in a position to help others navigating the changes that will enable them to live a happier and more fulfilled life.

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